“It’s Not In My Job Description!” – Resistance in Your Team Members

Dale Allen
Awareness, Confidence, Engagement, Influence, Leadership, Mental Health, Performance, Stress

“It’s not in my job description” is a phrase you’ve probably heard many times as a leader. Whether you’ve asked a team member to cover for someone or take on a last minute assignment, “It’s not in my job description” can be a default response in the workplace. How do you feel when you hear this? Frustrated? Exhausted? Disappointed? Getting…

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